Topic started by Kalyani Ranganathan (@ 61.11.79.179) on Sat Jul 17 06:46:52 EDT 2004.
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I have a relative. She is actually my sister-in-law's daughter who is my daughter's age. My mother-in-law always praises her as she is her daughter's daughter. I am after-all her daughter-in-law and she never has a good word for my daughter. Doesn't she know that my daughter is also her grand daughter? Why does my mother-in-law love her daughter's daughter and does not like her son's daughter? Ok, i agree that a mother will be close to her daughter and not her daughter-in-law, but at least, can't she stop comparing the two ?????? This has created a HATRED in me for my sister-in-law's daughter. How do i handle this situation ? Do i have to ask my mother-in-law to just shut up???

Responses:

• From: Sowmya (@ 61.11.79.179) on: Sat Jul 17 06:52:35 EDT 2004
  
  The best way is ....when she comes to your house, tell her not to touch this ...not to touch that ..... keep on telling this. This will give you some pleasure. Ask her to do something which your daughter can do very well .... then tell her that she has not done it well at all and she has got to learn it from your daughter. Tell her "See how (name) has done it. Why can't you do like that?".Then also tell her "Since you are very fat, you cannot do anything properly. Eat less, be slim, and then you will be fast enough to do things well". Keep talking about her fat body.
  
  
• From: Hemant Trivedi (@ 203-195-212-199.now-india.net.in) on: Sat Jul 17 12:59:00 EDT 2004
  
  No ....please don't do that.
  Hate begets hate.
  Best way to handle the situation is show more love to Gundu than what your MIL shows for her.
  This will kill two birds with one stone.
  Try and tell me.
  
  
• From: nirosha (@ j29.stw21.jaring.my) on: Mon Jul 19 05:35:28 EDT 2004
  
  Yes, I agree Hemant. What on earth is Sowmya trying to do? Fuel the situation to make it worse? These are children for goodness sake! If it was me, I'll just tell my mother-in-law how I feel. Let her reflect on it and hopefully she'll cool down after that.
  
  
• From: Kareena Shyam (@ 202-177-162-2.sify.net) on: Sat Jul 24 06:02:15 EDT 2004
  
  Kalyani and Sowmya are one and the same. See the number shown against their names. But what kalyani alias sowmya says is right. It gets damn irritating at times. The best way is to ask everyone to shut up and mind their own byusiness.
  
  
• From: kals (@ cpe-66-168-113-129.ma.charter.com) on: Thu Jul 29 17:25:02 EDT 2004
  
  Hi kalyani/sowmya,
  
  You can show all your hatred to ur MIL.Because she is the one who is doing it wrong.What did that Gundu girl do?.All fault lies with ur MIL.so show every thing to her and not to the girl.What is the difference between u and ur MIL if u get angry with that Gundu.
  
  
• From: milan (@ 203.115.84.158) on: Thu Aug 5 08:47:59 EDT 2004
  
  i am with hemant
  
  
• From: janani (@ ) on: Fri Oct 29 09:00:37
  
  i agree with kals response
  
  
• From: ~ (@ 219.92.212.19) on: Fri Oct 29 22:33:12 EDT 2004
  
  i think i will just mind my own business..come on guys..there are so many other important things to think abt in a family..
  
  
• From: blahblah (@ ppp18-120.dsl-pun.eth.net) on: Sat Nov 6 01:12:18 EST 2004
  
  Oops!What all people won't think up and work out!Times are bad and we have forgotten how to forget and forgive.Love breeds love and hate breeds hate.Hi Kalyani/Soumya,Learn to love people around and you will find love.
  
  
• From: celene (@ 213-202-157-117.bas503.dsl.esat.net) on: Wed Nov 10 06:15:03 EST 2004
  
  My sister in law always makes an issue about my name and my height,
  
  

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